FEELING ALONE , BEING ALONE , MISERABLE LONELINESS, HAPPY CREATIVE SOLITUDE , CRUSHING UNLOVED ISOLATION, SOCIAL REJECTION , UNREQUITED LOVE , UNEMPLOYED AND FEELING WORTHLESS, LONELINESS IN BEING ROOTLESS, CANCER AND LONELINESS , LONELINESS FROM UGLINESS AND MORBID OBESITY , FACEBOOK VS FLESH N BLOOD HUMAN CONNECTION , LACK OF REM SLEEP AND LONELINESS , ACTUAL VS PERCEIVED REJECTION , EMOTIONAL THIRST QUENCHING, FEELING PASSIVE AND TRAPPED IN LONELINESS , ADMITTING LONELINESS IN A DIARY , BRAIN IN SELF PRESERVATION STATE , LONELINESS AND THE IMMUNE SYSTEM , LONELINESS AS A NO 1 PUBLIC HEALTH CONCERN FOR SENIOR CITIZENS, LONELINESS OF FEELING LIKE A LOSER , CURING LONELINESS FROM OUTSIDE COMFORT ZONE , PSYCHOLOGICAL DISORDER DEPRESSION, LONELINESS AND PREMATURE AGEING , LONELINESS TRIGGERED BY INGRATITUDE BOTH WAYS,
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We can be in a crowd of people ( all well wishers ) and yet feel lonely. Loneliness cannot be cured by the presence of people.
Loneliness is UNWILLING solitude .
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She was trying to find out his marital status BLAH BLAH .
Below: I asked my elder son to play this tune on piano -- he says NOPE --it will pain ! ( AR Rehman has such a rich voice !!)
My job at sea as a ship captain was a LONELY job .
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Real friendships could never be made on board for all knew that the captain holds the sword--
- ready to cut and bleed team members who let down the team - as part of his job , of being in command -
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Below : Charles Schultz did covert advertisements too - nobody ever knew !!
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This blog post will lay LONELINESS threadbare - it will be a pretty long post ..
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Yesterday I was watching our Arnab Goswami and his bunch of chelas talking to the Twitter boss on Timesnow TV. I have never heard such a DUMB conversation in my life— mind you these hyped up but pea brained people are supposed to be the bounty of the world media.
Facebook is a forum where you give others the power to make you feel miserable.
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THE BOTTOM MANAGEMENT WERE MY FANS – AND THEY FLOWED THE GRAPEVINE TO MY SHIPs CABIN . THERE WERE NO SECRETS IN THE SHORE OFFICE WHEN IT CAME TO CAPT AJIT VADAKAYIL
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Below: M80 Moosa TV serial -- an illiterate fisherman with his facebook mad vernacular wife .
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Below: Depression is a disease of loneliness
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TO BE CONTINUED -
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CAPT AJIT VADAKAYIL
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Loneliness is a feeling of emptiness or hollowness inside you ( and feeling sad about it ) - despite all your fame, fortune and facebook popularity.
We can be in a crowd of people ( all well wishers ) and yet feel lonely. Loneliness cannot be cured by the presence of people.
Loneliness is UNWILLING solitude .
Below: A month after the release of the song , it topped the UK Singles Chart. Elvis Presley's version was certified Gold by the Recording Industry Association of America in 1961, and in 1992 it was upgraded to double Platinum.
Yes, it twanged the strings of the lonely western heart .
When you create a cartoon strip about LONELINESS you grab almost the entire adult west by the balls and short curlies .
Why ?
Because almost all are an expert on this subject , where they must go for a LOVE MARRIAGE .
They have felt it, they know- they can connect.
Want proof ?
A cartoon ran in the white man’s newspapers – and it was the most popular one by miles.
An Indian from a happy family , who had no HOLE IN HIS SOUL- fails to connect.
Even as an adult I use to wonder what the fu#k this PEANUTS comic strip is all about.
A poem on UNREQUITED LOVE connects when a person knows what a heartbreak is.
Men suffer the most.
I have seen some of my foreign ship’s officers suffer.
But men do NOT admit it.
Most women are so fickle that they pass on . They find another man -- any straw ( ask Vivek Oberoi ).
Some women can be diabolical when it comes to making her ex-flame hurt real bad.
They revel in it .
The owner of the PEANUTS comic strip ( someone like our cartoonist RK Lakshman ) Charles Schultz was a very lonely man . He never sought cure for it , because he was minting money from his own suffering.
Schulz portrayed his own childhood.
He was a small, bespectacled kid, shy around girls and sensitive to slights, real and imagined.
His parents, a German immigrant barber and a Norwegian-American farm girl, kept their feelings to themselves.
Being a sailor , I know in the west they do NOT open up-like Indians.
For a Indian who goes on a holiday abroad, the second question to a stranger would be “ How many children do you have” .
While in the west two buddies may be drinking in the same pub for years , they would NOT even know the marital status of the other guy – leave alone the number of his children.
I once has to warn a middle aged Tamilain Iyer tourist woman in silk saree in Holland , who was trying to strike up a conversation with a black Dutch guy begging on the street with a sign I HAVE AIDS- I NEED MONEY.
I literally screamed at her in Malayalam infused Tamil “ He wants money — not your FALTHU Indian sympathy “ If you can give him money do so — other wise FUCK OFF ! . He may attack you any moment !!"
Below: I asked my elder son to play this tune on piano -- he says NOPE --it will pain ! ( AR Rehman has such a rich voice !!)
My job at sea as a ship captain was a LONELY job .
Real friendships could never be made on board for all knew that the captain holds the sword--
- ready to cut and bleed team members who let down the team - as part of his job , of being in command -
It is NOT the Captain’s authority alone which makes him a lonely man. He is expected to behave in a responsible manner , come hell, come high water.
It is NO longer a truth finding exercise - he has to deliver, every time . I have been through this for 30 long years .
Getting back-
Charles Shultz missed his mother . As a young boy, the day after he reported to boot camp at Fort Snelling in 1943, his mother died from cervical cancer.
He never got over the crushing loss.
He wrote "Security is hearing your mother in the kitchen when you come home from school." Could anybody have described it better ?
The day my wife’s mother died, my father-in-law fell sick. He never recovered though he lived or a few years more. He was terribly lonely – mostly in a time warp.
He would go to the kitchen and cry out his wife’s name as usual “ MAITREEEEE , COULD YOU-“
Then sudden realization would hit him hard, and he would limp away from the kitchen with a sad face.
When the comic strip PEANUTS ended its amazing run, with the death of Charles Schultz in 2000 AD, – it was 50 years old and appeared every single week in 2,500 newspapers.
With Charlie Brown, it was about loneliness and isolation. Half the strip was about who wasn't there. The parents of the small boy , were never in the picture.
Charles M. Schulz, has said of the character that “ Charlie brown of Peanuts was the caricature of the quintessential lonely person, suffering in silence , who on on some days, was s reluctant to go out because his day might just be spoiled - ”.
Below : Charles Schultz did covert advertisements too - nobody ever knew !!
Loneliness and rootlessness are just symptoms of an insecurity that assails the west when they hit the midlife moment. To them , the cruel world appears intent on blanking them out.
A decade ago I met one of my class mates .
He invited me to a drink and I went to his house. His house was big and apparently he was doing well ( business ) , considering at school he was at the bottom of the cerebral barrel.
When his wife was serving tea, I joked “ Any time you want me to expose his greatest secret , ask me – and this has nothing to do with girls”
My friends face became red for he knew that in many exams I could see him copying out of a guide which he carried in his underwear.
Then he suddenly told me “ I hated my school school life . I never wanted to go to school . And in the final exams I got low grades “
On the drive back home my wife asked me if I enjoyed school.
I said “ Of course—but he had a particular trauma inflicted on his at school, due to the stupid Principal ”
This was the way it transpired- -
In the 7th standard , the Principal – one Gupta from UP ( Kendriya Vidyalaya ) , wanted to form the house system— Gandhi, Tagore, Shastri and Nehru.
He personally selected 4 leaders of each house- senior students who were supposed to be THE cat’s whiskers .
Then he told these 4 student leaders to call out named from the students ( 6th to 11th) assembled on the maidan ,class wise .
The students who could contribute most to the POINT SYSTEM for the BEST HOUSE ROLLING TROPHY were of course the most valuable.
If you got first prize in painting, you secured 5 points for your house—the student who came second would get 3 and the third prize holder , would get 1 point .
The students who were good in athletics, games like soccer, debates, quiz, art, singing, dancing , general proficiency etc got picked up early.
I remember I got picked up early as I was first in class, and got prizes in painting, clay modeling , extempore speeches, quiz , athletics, recitation etc.
Digression-
In fact when I got married I showed these certificates to mE wife to show that her husband is NOT a TATTU-- TEE HEEE !
And when I went for my interview for my training ship at Mumbai , they were impressed with the wide array of my certificates. They kept making fun of my suit which I stitched “for the occasion” from Calicut— taunting me “ Are there no good tailors in Calicut ?”
To which I replied smiling in a cocky manner “ Of course, my azure blue suit is a LIVING example of how good Calicut tailors are ! In my opinion my suit is very good, and THE latest fashion your opinion may be otherwise- because you are NOT upto the latest fashion ”
PSSST- after 20 years , I checked out my old photo where I wore this suit and came to the conclusion that it was indeed a poor tailoring job –when compared to the Italian and French suits in my wardrobe.
Nine boys were there from Kerala for orals at Mumbai Jahaj Bhavan - only two were selected ( Ashok Mulloth was the other guy- he was our band master being schooled in Lovedale Ooty )..
More than 2000 boys appeared for the entrance exams from two centres in Kerala - one in Cochin and the other from Trivandrum. I had to go all the way to Cochin for the written test and all the way to Mumbai for my orals.
Getting back-
As the students were picked up, they had to move to the chosen group leaders , thus making 4 groups –instead of the original large assembly group. This meant that the assembly group was getting smalled with every name call.
Some idiots were even hiding behind others – just to show that they want to be in some particular house of their choice –
-- and that is why THEY , THE SALT - NAY- THE VERITABLE BOUNTY OF THE SCHOOL was still present in the diminishing CONDEMN PARTY GROUP —
-- it was pathetic.
-- and that is why THEY , THE SALT - NAY- THE VERITABLE BOUNTY OF THE SCHOOL was still present in the diminishing CONDEMN PARTY GROUP —
-- it was pathetic.
As the group got smaller, you should have seen the despair on the faces of these rejects.
Finally there was one lone 13 YEAR OLD boy — and this was the chap I had my beer with.
HE LOOKED TOTALLY TRAUMATISED – AND SCARRED FOR LIFE.
I never forgot this incident—and I swore , I would never ever let this happen in my watch.
So on a ship ( huge OBO ) after discharging grain, we had a very long ocean sea passage . So I would arrange sports and games .
For cricket, the Chief officer and the Chief Engineer made themselves leaders and were loudly picking up players , the way it was done in my school. They did NOT even know the cricketing skills of the sailors— and so it was by using their whims and personal connects .
I immediately ordered--
STOP THIS LOUD SELECTION— YOU SHALL DO IT IN PRIVATE , WHERE NOBODY KNOWS IF HE WAS SELECTED FIRST OR LAST.
STOP THIS LOUD SELECTION— YOU SHALL DO IT IN PRIVATE , WHERE NOBODY KNOWS IF HE WAS SELECTED FIRST OR LAST.
I AM ARRANGING THIS GAME SO THAT WE ALL CAN BOND AND BE HAPPY. NOT TO MAKE SOME FEEL MORE IMPORTANT AND SOME WORTHLESS , EVEN BEFORE THE GAME HAS BEGUN.
THE RESULTS WILL BEAR OUT WHO IS GOOD AND WHO IS BAD..
Everybody clapped.
People who have come to the top by deceit face low self esteem propelled loneliness — Example? - a top actress who clawed her way to the top by the casting couch route.
If you have bitten the hand that fed you, your subconscious will take its toll in spoiling your REM sleep. Poor REM sleep propels you to loneliness .
You can control everything by wealth and power ( like R ) – but you cannot control the quality of your REM sleep.
Older adults spend progressively less time in REM sleep and hence are more prone to loneliness.
Older adults spend progressively less time in REM sleep and hence are more prone to loneliness.
Concealing a kindness received is ingratitude. Conveniently forgetting it is even a greater sin. Gratitude has a unique relationship with your mental and physical health. Grateful people are happier, less stressed and happier with social relationships.
Every Sanskrit mantra is infused and surcharged with gratitude .
Genetic determinism is a flawed theory. Factors like gratitude ( positive quantum nutrient) or anxiety , jealousy etc ( negative QN ) influence a person’s DNA blueprint program.
When we are stressed or negative, our biological energy reserves are diverted from the important task of regenerating and repairing the body.
We can counteract cellular quantum nutrient deprivation by focusing on genuine states of care, gratitude , appreciation and love.
That is why on your next birthday onwards make it a point to feed the poor disabled / orphan children ( with good food ). This is better than throwing a party .
I will get into more detail later.
The first time the word LONELY was used in the English language was in William Shakespeare's tragedy play Coriolanus written in 1607. The play was about the great Roman general Gaius Marcius Coriolanus.
But William Shakespeare was a mere writer. He did NOT understand the inner workings of LONELINESS.
Neither did any of the western psychological greats till today.
On my ship I held regular parties to evaporate loneliness - and my crew were ever grateful.
Watch me singing KOI HUM DUM ( one of the greatest "loneliness" songs of Kishore Kumar ) – this was part of my job of being in command .
“ in this dusk of loneliness, how will I find my destination
the only star that lit the path to my destination is no more
cruel world please don't laugh at me, as I walk away”
6000 years ago, just before the Mahabharata war , Lord Krishna found Arjuna to be suffering from extreme pangs of loneliness.
Arjuna was a world HERO , loved by all including 99% of the enemy camp, yet he was lonely and depressed.
Noticing this Lord Krishna instructed him that he must do Suryanamaskar every day before he sets out for battle.
All used to wait for Arjuna to complete his Suryanamaskar before they blew their war conches-though technically the war rules mentioned that battle starts exactly at sunrise and finishes for the day exactly at sunset.
People who do Suryanamaskar daily do NOT get lonely or depressed. This is a 11000 year old Vedic yoga.
You connect with the biggest force in your life—the rising sun.
Modern doctors are NOT smart enough to understand all this. It is a series of asanas with a separate Sanskrit mantra ( of gratitude ) done in single flow .
See the video below.
Doing Suryanamaskar –just to mention a few relevant to this post helps you to
-Develop inner peace
-Rekindle your drooping spirit
-Detoxify the mind
-Balance mind, body and spirit.
-Dives mental clarity
-Stokes your inner flame
-Fills you with a sense of gratitude to destress.
-Gives good REM sleep at night.
-Drives away phobias.
SURYA NAMASKAR is not a physical exercise. It is a complete Sadhana, inclusive of Yogasana ( exercise ) , Mantra ( sound longitudinal waves ) , Pranayama ( breathing ) and Chakra meditation ( scalar energy vortex transceiver ) .
Chakras are focal points where psychic forces and bodily functions interact with each other. They are transceivers of SCALAR energy . Scalar waves operate in a non-linear time dimension which is hyperspace, at any speed from zero to infinity, as they are not limited to the speed of light.
When you develop cosmic consciousness, the chakras vortex will extend further from your body-such people experience the richness of solitude NOT the extreme suffering of loneliness.
When my wife did her grandmasters exam in reiki she used a quartz dousing pendulum and checked the solar plexus chakra of her guru and declared that it is weak, which implies that he suffered from loneliness.
These chakras cannot be seen by the sight sense of the common man. Each of these 7 chakras are associated with a specific colour, organ, gland, mantra and frequency. Chakras can send out information carrying soliton waves, which do not attenuate.
The Indian sage has exploded into a space of consciousness in which inner awareness is spontaneous. Cosmic consciousness is an intellectual enlightenment or illumination, an indescribable state of moral and intellectual elevation, a feeling of amazing bliss.
Gazing at the sun or stars is an enlightening practice that fills up the soul. The real nervous system operates by means of synaptic messages. The virtual one operates by means of the quantum effect of tunneling (particles passing through an energy barrier that classically they should not be able to climb).
The real one is driven by classical laws, the virtual one by quantum laws. Consciousness is therefore driven by quantum laws. Remember, chakras dictate all physical, mental, emotional and spiritual processes that take place in your body. Every chakra is a transmitter cum receiver antenna.
As per Vedanta we are essentially holographic energy beings existing in a state of resonance with the scalar field of the cosmos Pineal gland is literally the third eye. The great Himalayan masters did Surya yog by gazing at the rising sun with a silver coin placed in between the eyebrows on the forehead .
The solar wind at dawn, charging the earth’s magnetic field, stimulates the pineal gland. This is the best time to meditate , chant and sun gaze. At dawn, the negatively charged pineal and the positively charged pituitary combine their essences to create a "light in the head".
Pranayama floods the Pineal gland with oxygen, to make it resonate. The reddish grey pineal gland is located in the geometric center of the brain. The nerves that serve the pineal gland don't originate in the brain but in the sympathetic nervous system. This gland can be activated by activated by sunlight, and also by sound resonance.
It controls the various biorhythms of the body. It can discern negative energies, based on perception of vibrating energies around you. When the pineal gland does not receive sunlight, it secretes Melatonin, which induces sleep, increases blood sugar, craze for food, leading to obesity, fears and anxiety.
The pineal gland is a photosensitive organ and thus an important timekeeper for the human body. The pineal gland produces PINOLINE, ( 6-methoxy-tetra-dydro-beta carboline, or 6-MeO-THBC ) .
Pinoline also resonates with the very pulse of life 7.83 Hertz, the pulse the DNA uses to replicate, and which has been measured to be emitted from the brains and hands of all successful healers, regardless of belief or faith. Pinoline enables the threshold levels of DMT to become active in the brain . DMT with Pinoline increases brain activation multi fold.
Pineal activation awakens normally latent neural pathways. Nerve fibers leave the pineal and make synaptic connections with other brain sites through traditional nerve-to-nerve connections, not just through endocrine secretions.
EASTERN VEDIC RISHIS MYSTICS HAD THE ABILITY TO GO ON EITHER SIDE OF THE NARROW BAND OF 5 HUMAN SENSES, WITH A KING SIZED RESONATING PINEAL GLAND. THEY COULD TRANSCEND THE SENSES AND LIMITATION OF SPACE-TIME.
There is a lot we knew 10000 years ago , but has been lost to this this 21st century-- right?
You cant observe the quantum world without your Pineal gland -- the other 5 senses have too narrow bandwidths. Quantum physics has showed the ancient Indian Yogis were NOT mere dreamers of cosmic consciousness, where our bodies, our brain and its mind, as inextricably joined with other matter and the mega dipole of universe .
There is indeed a connection between consciousness and tangled state quantum phenomena. They firmly believed that the invisible below the quantum screen gives rise to the visible. While Newton tries to explain the invisible through the visible. There is no room for consciousness or morphogenetic fields in the dictionary of idiot Darwin.
A mantra is a word or a series of words , which produce longitudinal Scalar waves by resonating your Pineal gland and your DNA—in a divine language. A divine language like Sanskrit came out from a 12 strand DNA – the most complicated supercomputer on this planet.
The king Mantra OM or AUM is 11000 years old—and was told by the sages that it was the original sound when the Cosmos was created. OM opens up quantum tunneling for the wormholes to happen , where the speed of light is NOT the limiting factor.
DNA is a superconductor that stores light at body temperature, and can create magnetic wormholes in ZPF .. Microtubules and axional membranes are also hollow cylinders. Mantras are Scalar energy based sounds which resonate in the Zero Point Field Aakashik hyperspace.
-Mantras resonate your pineal gland and reprogramme your DNA. The human DNA can produce longitudinal scalar waves. Mantras vibrations on DNA , chakras and pineal gland purifies and raises human consciousness. Mantras centres your mind ( effect on subconscious ) and slows down your breathing.
Mantras increase your Auras as seen by Kirlean photography— due to the effect on symphathetic and para sympathetic nervous systems. Lonely people have weak auras with dark holes in them ---Mantra chanting must be done with intent, to make it more powerful. This is about consciousness again.
Pranayama— where you exhale twice as long as inhale— IS MORE ABOUT DUMPING OLD EXPERIENCES, RATHER THAN MERE OXYGENATION OF BLOOD. Breathe in the new , breathe out the old.
Pranayama—inhale and exhale with awareness— long exhales with the sound of mmmm. Humming boosts level of NITRIC OXIDE—this in turn ups the oxygen intake by 98%, the biggest secret . Ordinary breath is a mere 4%.
70% of toxins in your body are released by exhalation— rest by sweat, defecation and urine— surprised? The main purpose of respiration is to provide oxygen to the cells at a rate adequate to satisfy their metabolic needs. This involves transport of oxygen from the lung to the tissues by means of the circulation of blood. The power of breathing lies in its relationship with your energy source.
The mind is intimately connected to your breathing . Deep diaphragmatic breathing triggers the lymph, your body’s sewage system which will give your cells more efficiency. It keeps the blood fully oxygenated. The physical aspect of lack of oxygen in the body is not as important as the mental and spiritual aspect.
Lack of oxygen always slows your reaction time. The more oxygen our brains receive the better they function. Stress, fear and anxiety causes muscles to contract and blood vessels to constrict. When blood cannot be transported freely through the body to provide oxygen, and antibodies and to carry away and dispose toxic wastes, illness sets in.
Mind is non material , but it works in partnership with communicator molecules. With every thought mind moves atoms of hydrogen, carbon , oxygen and other particles in the brain .
Knowing the connection between breath and consciousness, the ancient yogis devised PRANAYAMA to stabilise energy and consciousness. Anxiety vanishes entirely when you are one with the rest of the universe. When your mind is disturbed the fundamental energy Prana leaks . Pranayama just reverses the process.
People who do Pranayama regularly have quieter nerves , less lethargy , better sleep and lower BP. It prevents accumulation of Uric acid which gives joint pains. Fluctuations of mind are controlled and hence Pranayama prepares you for meditation.
Rahul Gandhi has been walking on LONELY STREET , ploughing a LONELY FURROW for too long. He needed a sabbatical in the lap of nature - and I guess this is what he is doing right now.
I would advise him to do SURYANAMAKAR . Once he is healed he must come back and kick out the ENTIRE old coterie and sycophants .
The impact of loneliness on human mental health has huge cost implications.
85 LAKH DONATION PARTY PSYCHIATRISTS ( WHO CANNOT THINK CLEARLY ), ARE SINGING ALL THE WAY TO THE BANK.
It is a national shame that India’s richest man , a Gujarati Jain, Dilip Shanghvi is a PHARMA owner.
Rothschild sponsored this community before Independence – like the Parsis, the Chitpavan Jews and the Kerala Syrian Jews .
A lot of people are put in the LONELINESS and DEPRESSION bracket by wrong diagnosis.
They actually suffer from a perceived condition known as BDD . This BDD group commit more suicides that the LONELY group or DEPRESSED group.
People with BDD suffer from obsessions about their PHYSICAL appearance.
The 85 lakh donation party psychiatrists are all blissfully unaware. Once you start taking their mind drugs , you are HOOKED—like how the cancer doctor puts hooks on you.
There is another mental disease called OBSESSIVE COMPULSIVE DISORDER. It is possible that even YOU are victim to this. Hoarders experience intense anxiety when they even think of discarding what most others view as totally useless objects.
EVIL PHARMA has been conspiring to use Indians as GUINEA PIGS for brain drugs. They have top people who govern India in their payroll , and this includes the BENAMI media.
According to data from the World Health Organisation (WHO), India is the most depressed country in the world.
They declared that more than 36% of the Indian population suffers from the mental illness. R controlled WHO declares that Indians have the highest suicide rate on this planet – that our suicide rate, particularly in the age group 15-29 years of age is the highest in the world, with 1 lakh people killing themselves every year.
CAPT AJIT VADAKAYIL SAYS–
FUCK OFF YOU LYING CUNTS!
INDIA HAS LEAST DEPRESSED PEOPLE ON THIS PLANET BY PERCENTAGE —SO STOP USING THE AXIS BANK CELEBRITY FACE TO DISCREDIT INDIA- IT WONT WORK !
The Zionists are exhorting the world to use Facebook as a cure for loneliness . What do they know about the inner workings of the human mind ?
Why do you think Capt Ajit Vadakayil is not on facebook and twitter ? Why do you think I started this blog ?
There was even a fat guy ( ALL INDIA BACKCHOD MAN ) who even managed to put our DEMENTED ORAGUNATAN on the back foot .
Facebook is a forum where you give others the power to make you feel miserable.
Facebook causes intense feelings of jealousy. A competent and self-confident person is incapable of jealousy at all- but he can fall prey to loneliness.
People go on Facebook and feel miserable. For all and sundry are waxing lyrical of ZE good life on Facebook .
Nobody complains on Facebook that she has PMS migraine or that he bled a glass of blood from his piles or their child came last in class , of a family member is a perverted homosexual preying in school buses , or takes hallucinatory drugs .
They have put in rosy pictures of their fancy holidays , with internet borrowed pictures with photoshop , how great a party they held with hundreds of cheering well wisher friends with a celebrity thrown in for good measure -
--how their child came first in some bullshit event , the expensive diamond ring presented by the husband ( it would be a fake actually ) , how loving and smart their pet dog is , their new SUV ( actually a jalopy second hand ) , their dream promotion at the work place- the drinks are on me -- BLAH BLAH.
Facebook participants get depressed , and short changed at being forced by destiny to take in the short end of the stick, not knowing that everything on Facebook is HEAVILY sugar coated. When you are constantly comparing yourself to the Joneses ( including LIKES ) , you’ll suffer unintended consequences.
Unless you are ze guy who holds 3 aces all the while.
Almost all the people whom you see on page 3 party place are miserable and lonely . Some Western middle aged fat ugly women share on Face Book how many times they made love the previous night, after she put her man on fire with her sexy bikini .
Whether you will fall victim to this bull , and get mired in self pity, it is up to you ?
So Face Book is for shared laughter?
Oh fu#kin' yeah?
Worrying about how you don’t measure up , and how your earning spouse is a loser, robs you of your present happiness. It leaves you unable to think about how you really want your own life to look.
Friend or no, envy is an overwhelming emotion.
When you are jealous you count the other fellow's blessings instead of your own, and lose your peace of mind—rather burn up inside..
It is in the character of very few men to honor without envy a friend who has prospered. The sure mark of one born with noble qualities, is being born without envy.
Of the seven deadly sins, only envy aint no fun at all.
When negative politics are used by team members or negative energies are channelised for selfish needs, the resulting conflict can corrode the core of the team. At the work place productivity soars when everyone is working as one team instead of pointing fingers and trying to outdo each other.
There must be an atmosphere of “we’re all in this together.”—which is never there. Have you seen the INFOSYS attrition rate ?
At the work place may people were unhappy, because their bosses misrepresented they authority.
People who know Capt Ajit Vadakayil will tell you that the captain dragged all such con artists by their nostrils to China town.
It was a matter of his perception. At sea so many of my bosses have been sacked by the TOP GUN –just for giving Capt Ajit Vadakayil a bad service ( confidential ) report – including very poor for professional competence TEE HEEEEE ! – even I feel like laughing.
I have changed so many shipping companies just to check out this strange pattern—again and again MAJJA AATHA HAI ! ( this is was different from HUM BHI FRENCH , TUM BHI FRENCH RINCHET -- MAJJA HAI !)
THE TOP GUNs HAND WAS ALWAYS ON MY HEAD – IN BLESSING . FOR THIS MAN MY SHIT DID NOT SMELL. HE KNEW CAPT AJIT VADAKAYIL WAS WORTH MORE THAN HIS ENTIRE SHORE TEAM PUT TOGETHER .
THE TOP/ MIDDLE MANAGEMENT HATED ME LIKE THE PLAGUE – FOR I REVELLED IN TELLING THEM TO FU#K OFF , AND DARED THEM TO DO THEIR WORST – AND I PUT THE SWORD OF DAMOCLES OVER MY HEAD, MYSELF . WHEN I JOINED ANOTHER COMPANY THEY ALL CELEBRATED AND GOT DRUNK.
Feeling of loneliness drives many people to Facebook . My wife is on Facebook but she checks once in three weeks . She is busy cooking and spending quality time with her husband and younger son. She is on SKYPE with my elder son every day .
Lonely people spend more time on Facebook.
The use of Facebook accounts for 62 percent of users' time online in the United States.
As feelings of loneliness increases, the time spent on Facebook increases. Facebook can cause envy and trigger feelings of deep misery and loneliness.
Statistics in the west say that half the people felt worse after visiting the site and more dissatisfied with their lives, while people who browsed without contributing were affected the most.
A negative experience from Facebook left them feeling lonely and frustrated .
Holiday photos were the biggest cause of resentment with more than half of envy incidents triggered by such joyful snaps on Facebook.
There are even some who falls head long into the dark pit of loneliness from such innocuous things like the number of birthday greetings they received to those of their Facebook friends and how many "likes" or comments were made on photos and postings.
These feelings of envy were found to prompt some users to boast more about their achievements on the site run by Facebook Inc. to portray themselves in a better light.
Facebook provides an invaluable resource for fulfilling the basic human need for social connection. But there is a difference between a f acebook hug and a real FLESH AND BLOOD HUG.
Rather than enhance well-being, Facebook use predicts the opposite result – it undermines it.
It takes a real CHOOT to spend so much of their time on these bullsh#t sites, constantly sharing posts, updating their statuses, and commenting. These are the CHOOTS who are most likely to be lonely and possibly depressed.
In real life this is tatamount to peeping into others houses with a telescope. Before facebook era lot of people did this.
I had a Anglo Indian Second Mate from Kochi, who bought such a long range telescope with stand .
When I asked him if he peeps into other people houses from his high rise flat, he said his mother like to do it.
Then I told him “ Make sure she is NOT caught—in Kochi the people will NOT take such peeping Toms nay- Marys , kindly – your mother will be ostracized “
The time that people spend on with their virtual social partners displaces the time they spend with their real ones in FTF (face to face) interaction.
Below: M80 Moosa TV serial -- an illiterate fisherman with his facebook mad vernacular wife .
MOST WESTERN TOURISTS COME TO INDIA TO CURE THEIR CRUSHING LONELINESS. INDIA IS THE LAST POCKET OF SPIRITUALITY ON THIS PLANET . REST OF THE PLANET HAS SINGLE BOOK , SINGLE MESSIAH RELIGIONS . .
LONELY PEOPLE HAVE THIN AURAS WITH DARK HOLES IN THEM. THESE TOURISTS CAN TAKE A KIRLIAN CAMERA PICTURE ON ARRIVAL INDIA AND DEPARTURE INDIA- AND CHECK FOR THEMSELVES.
These emotionally disregulated people suffer from a strange loss of security in their material world. The roots of their loneliness lies in lack of love in their childhood. They are assailed with thoughts and feelings of inadequacy, imperfection and shame.
While smiling and having fun in their “parties” they danced and pretended to be upbeat, while feeling worthless inside. They hid their core feelings of loneliness. With a belief of potential rejection/ abandonment, their loneliness fed on itself.
A lot of them are homosexuals whose feelings are based on lust and NOT love. Most of the spectators whom you see in soccer games , rock concerts and beaches of the west , are very lonely people. Lot of the old western tourists are emotionally vulnerable after the loss of friends and family, reduced mobility or limited income.
The lonely people suffered in silence for long , wasting hard earned money on modern doctors and their destructive drugs .
And then some well wisher whispered in their ear-- " Go to India -- stop this downward spiral-- the very energy inherent in the soil of the ancient holy land fills up the empty void and cures ".
Below : A lot of foreigners who do NOT have the money/ time to come on a holiday to India, just celebrate our RIP ROARING Hindu festivals -- to get rid of loneliness .
And then some well wisher whispered in their ear-- " Go to India -- stop this downward spiral-- the very energy inherent in the soil of the ancient holy land fills up the empty void and cures ".
Below : A lot of foreigners who do NOT have the money/ time to come on a holiday to India, just celebrate our RIP ROARING Hindu festivals -- to get rid of loneliness .
Modern MRI, CAT have shown that the brains of people experiencing depression show marked variations in the absorption of serotonin and norepinephrine.
When mixed correctly, dopamine, serotonin and norepinephrine work like a happiness cocktail. These monoamine neurotransmitters are naturally produced in the human body . Correct mixing can be assisted by very low dose medical marijuana.
Dopamine releases feel good endorphins. A protein rich diet boosts dopamine and norepinephrine levels. Carbohydrates activate the release of serotonin- this is why rice eaters hate chappatis..it is NOT gluten alone.
Below: Depression is a disease of loneliness
Our Indian food laden with amazing spices helped to provide our body with nutrients to enhance dopamine, serotonin and norepinephrine. The Chutney Marys, Pickle Johns and wannabe Gora gaands switched over to western food— a major diet based reason why their marriages fail.
You will NOT get such critical information from main stream medical books.
Getting back to FACEBOOK AND LONELINESS
I had a friend who boasted about his 1000+ Facebook friends –and how many LIKES he gets every day.
I asked , how many of these people would take you along with them on a picnic? He says “All of them”
Then I gave him a scenario.
He had hundreds of Facebook friends in Mumbai. He was from a small UP town. He should declare on Facebook that he would be coming to Mumbai to consult a doctor about some imaginary stomach problem.
He must declare that he need a home place to stay FREE as hotels would be expensive . He must declare that he plans to stay in one of his dear Mumbai Facebook friends house . After that watch the deadly silence of his Mumbai Facebook friends.
Loneliness brings its users to Facebook, rather than because Facebook makes people lonely.
When people communicate online they can reflect and think longer before saying something. Such measured and pre-meditated responses are NOT genuine.
Lonely individuals who are shy or have low social support may turn to Facebook to compensate for their lack of social skills . Increased online contacts may replace real-life communication. But despite so many ‘connected’ people, the social network is full of lonely hearts.
A friendship requested ignored can cause a spiral of downward sadness . The lonelier someone is, the longer they spend on Facebook. Facebook does not reduce people’s sense of isolation at all.
Facebook was meant to include only your real friends, the ones you feel comfortable sharing private and intimate details with. Human specific friendship is missing on Facebook-you play to the gallery.
Sincere human emotions are missing. Facebook is a killing field of fake emotions—nothing is genuine.
Facebook users have higher levels of total narcissism, exhibitionism, than Facebook nonusers It's all too easy to become addicted to the instant spark of gratification we get when someone likes our Facebook update, retweets our brilliance, or reposts a pic from Instagram.
Social networks appeal to your vanity and play to your vulnerability. They seduce you with the feeling , that if you get enough friends or followers or likes, we will feel truly significant ( like LORD FU#KLAND ) in the world.
Facebook could even cause problems in relationships, by increasing feelings of jealousy—you know some of them are plainly bullsh#tting ..
Having HAJAAAAR friends on Facebook might make you feel that you have lots of friends, but you have no face-to-face flesh and blood contact.
In some ways it is good for ex-classmate buddies to get back in touch after they have come back home from abroad or a far away job station—to pick up the threads- pick up right where they left off
Facebook is all about self-presenting. Users present themselves as happy and winners, regardless of the facts. All want to be envied and popular, so they show a side of themselves which is FAKE.
REAL communication is about telling your well wishers and intimate friends about how you REALLY feel. Loneliness is all but guaranteed if we present a false picture of ourselves. This affects your REM sleep.
Facebook is a recipe for self-centeredness, not self-actualization.
You get so dang busy with trying to present a happy face to the world that you lose any reason for it to actually be a happy face. When a true friend visits you, over a beer you share your deepest deepest feelings, thoughts, and experiences – this is instant catharsis.
Most Facebook users simply consumed a lot of content passively.. Facebook has the opposite effect, lowering feelings of connection and increasing the sense of loneliness.
Some rich and beautiful people seem to get all the likes.
OK- I AM SWITCHING MY TV CHANNEL FROM NEWS TO CRICKET – AND IMMEDIATELY SHE GETS 30 LIKES.
Facebook isn’t the problem.
It’s the fu#kin’ symptom
Below: Here is a BIRTHDAY CARD for some Facebook friend who you know is plainly bull shitting --about what a great WINNER he is .
Below: Here is a BIRTHDAY CARD for some Facebook friend who you know is plainly bull shitting --about what a great WINNER he is .
I had experienced loneliness once. We were in NIPM Chennai for a 7 week period of various professional courses. We all had a ball .
This place was bang on the beach and during the tsunami the swimming pool was filled with salt water and muck.
We had a grand booze party in between the course with most bringing their wives in for a day and inviting all the shore marine big wigs—ignoring the snooty diktats of the IAS director of the institution—( IAS govt folks understanding sailors ? TEE HEEE ) . Mind you we could have been jailed .
I remember there were 77 ship Captains .
At the end of the course all who had already packed their bags , ran like Cinderellas ,got into 3 buses and went away to the railways stations and airports by 3 PM .
My train from Chennai to Calicut was the next day morning.
But the crushing feeling on loneliness in the empty college hostel was too much. One of my ex- shipmates from UP who had settled down in Chennai ( we were happy cadets together on the same ship ) hung around in his car with his wife.
Seeing my state he hijacked me to his home with baggage. I slept in his posh home that night. His wife's father ran a huge business and stayed in the same home .
Only at that time I understood the crushing loneliness of the young school boy in Raj Kapoor’s movie MERA NAAM JOKER - when all school students went away from a boarding school for vacation leaving behind the young character played by Rishi Kapoor all alone .
I guess my UP friend remembered how I rescued him from loneliness on the cadet ship.
We were having a soccer , match in Odessa ( Ukraine of USSR ) . He did NOT get a slot in the playing eleven and was hanging around on the bench as an extra. I had just scored the equalizer just before half time and I heard this guy clapping and shouting from the bench.
During the break seeing his lonely face , I gave him my playing dress – this meant that I had to strip to my undies and wear his corny bell bottom pants, big collared shirt , and extra-high heeled shoes .
He used to scratch his balls those days excessively , and I was sort of feeling like UGHHH ! ( believe me a BIG sacrifice )
He used to scratch his balls those days excessively , and I was sort of feeling like UGHHH ! ( believe me a BIG sacrifice )
He was overjoyed – as he never expected this kind gesture .. though the entire team objected . ( he could NOT play soccer for nuts PSSSTTTT – we used to call him GOAT ) . We won the game by a goal , or I would have faced flak .
Seeing his cute small son scratching his balls ( for no reason ) the same way -- his attractive wife interjected - BAAP BETA HAS THE SAME HABIT , THEY DO IT THE SAME WAY !
Seeing his cute small son scratching his balls ( for no reason ) the same way -- his attractive wife interjected - BAAP BETA HAS THE SAME HABIT , THEY DO IT THE SAME WAY !
TO BE CONTINUED -
Pixar6
March 28, 2015 at 6:38 PM
Dear Captain,
I had read about Srivatsa symbol mentioned earlier by you.
Can I get this done and wear it OR atleast wear it when we do puja / homas at home.
What precautions one needs to take OR just surrender and leave it to 'HIM', chant 'Narayana' and wear it.
Need your guidance, Captain.
Grace & Peace,
JTA
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Capt. Ajit Vadakayil
March 28, 2015 at 7:07 PM
hi p6,
my wife puts srivatsa KOLAM on certain auspicious days.
The 10th and last avatar of Vishnu will bear the Srivatsa mark on his chest ( Srivatsa-vakshaah )
Here is a picture of – “the endless knot which represents interweaving of CHANGE with TIME” .
The Kaustubh Mani was a powerful deep blue diamond with a radiance equal to the sun. It was obtained during the churning of the sea ( Samudra Manthan ) .
Lord Vishnu wears Kaustubh Mani in a garland on his chest. This tone brings invincibility on to its wearer .
The Srivatsa mark on Lord Vishnu’s right chest is due to this diamond, which caused a design of fine yellow hair in an endless knot geometrical form—as per Sree Bhagawatham (SB 10.13.48)
Brighu is star ALKAID --
OF WHY NOBODY WORSHIPS LORD BRAHMA WHO HID UNDER ZE BED WHEN MAHARISHI BRIGHU VISITED —
HOW LORD SHIVA AND PARVATI CONTINUED HAVING LUSTFUL SEX IN BRIGHUs PRESENCE ,
AND HOW BRIGHU GAVE LORD VISHNU A RESOUNDING KICK FOR PRETENDING TO SLEEP- THUS GETTING A SRIVATSA MARK ?
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